Tasha, I’m sad to say that I’m not surprised to hear how horribly dismissed your concerns were. My insulin resistance is connected to Polycystic Ovarian Sydrome (PCOS) and I was put through the wringer for almost 9 months, sent to a revolving door of specialists, told I had a brain tumor, that I was just depressed, that the 40 pounds I’d gained in a year and a half was “college partying taking a toll,” given an MRI that was up until that point the worst medical intervention I’d ever experienced, put on meds that made me lactate and on and on until someone finally stumbled on the right diagnosis and then did basically nothing about it. Nobody told me anything about diet other than avoid desserts and years later, avoid refined carbs and stick with whole grains. I had to do my own research.
It’s disgusting, but women and girls are often treated like crazies and malingerers, their symptoms discounted as fantasies or inventions by medical professionals. Your daughter is very lucky to have had you and your undaunted dedication to her health and well-being during a confusing, traumatizing time.
Your diet for her sounds solid to me from what you’ve described. That amount of porridge shouldn’t be an issue, but you might want to consider cutting it out for now just to get the weight loss jump-started. Veggies look good except for the carrots. They’re quite high in sugar. I know this is a lot of work for you and I’m sure as a busy mom there are plenty of other things on your to-do list, so if your daughter is willing, perhaps you could make a few dishes on the weekend and freeze them so she has everything portioned out and calculated and you don’t have to be fiddling with scales every day 3 times a day for two months.
Broth based soups with mixed veggies like zucchini, Swiss chard, scallions, kale, chickory, escarole, a single medium tomato finely chopped, celery, fennel and fresh herbs are filling, taste even better reheated than fresh and can be enhanced dramatically with just a dusting of freshly grated parmesan before serving. Freeze them in freezer bags or containers in one-cup (8 oz) servings and she has a ready-meal good to go. Mashed cauliflower mixed with steamed spinach (chopped), ricotta cheese and butter makes a rich and velvety side to go with a simple roasted or poached chicken breast. Those are also made easily ahead of time and frozen as little TV dinner type dishes. One of my favorites is plopping a container of chicken breasts in the slow cooker/crockpot with some chicken broth and a large amount of chili powder, oregano, ground cumin and garlic powder. Cook it on high for 4 hours until the chicken falls apart when you stab it. Shred the meat apart with two forks and let it sit in the spicey juices until they’re absorbed. Turn the slow cooker to the warm setting and let it ride until it’s all nicely combined and moist. That can be frozen for use in taco salad (minus the tortilla bowls, of course) and it is better than anything you’d get in a retaurant for basically no effort. Romaine lettuce base dressed with a little sour cream, lime juice and hot sauce, then top with the chicken, avocado slices or coarsley mashed for a quick guac, a spoonful of salsa on top and grated sharp cheddar makes for a scrumptious feast.
Anything she likes that she misses eating we can come up with a replacement that while not the same, will give her a different kind of satisfaction. Poor baby needs a little pampering after all the nonsense she’s been through with an establishment who basically called her (and you!) a liar for months as she fell apart. The trick is not to associate dangerous high-carb foods with satisfaction and pleasure. Lovely fats are going to do that job from now on, and the good news is they’re great at it. Almost as great as you are a mother. 🙂