Hi Fatbloke,
I love a twisted sense of humor and Iโm old too so I am posting to give you support and more importantly, hope. I havenโt been back here posting for a long time but you sound like you need support.
Please listen carefully, and take this to heart right now โ this diet IS GOING TO WORK FOR YOU. Most importantly, you are going to have days that โgo southโ and โyou blow itโ. It happens to everyone. You will eat too much and all the wrong things and you will be tempted to just stuff it all and go back to the way you have always done it. Itโs comfortable, itโs warm, itโs relaxing and itโs mentally like a down comforter.
Put that aside, one day (or more) is not the problem โ put it (or them) aside and the very next day or meal (as you can manage), JUST START AGAIN.
Donโt beat yourself up. Donโt even THINK about it. That day is GONE. It does not matter. Just start again.
If you have to โstart againโ 100 times, that is fine. I cannot begin to remember how many times I started again.
Over five years now (no kidding) I lost and kept off about 35 pounds โ and I have learned these important things along the way:
1.) this diet is more important for your brain than for your body. All of us will sadly lose the best of our body as we grow older (and believe me, I am fighting to the last breath to keep my body strong and fit) but in the end, your body is of no value if you lose your brain and develop dementia or Alzheimerโs.
This diet will protect your brain to the last, so you will remain YOU and you will enjoy this amazing world until your dying day. Research continues to roll in, study after study, meta-study after meta-study that this kind of low-carb eating and exercise will defend your brain and keep you mentally fit. (Listen to Dr Benjamin Bikman podcasts and read Dr Perlmutter โGrain Brainโ for further information.
2.) donโt expect immediate (or ha, ha, ever) perfection. You donโt have to hit 800 calories starting tomorrow, you can work your way into this diet โ eat less carbs today, drop cereal tomorrow, read more and learn about how sugar โhidesโ and cut those out too, choose heavy cream instead of milk, have olives for a snack instead of crackers, pick your yogurt more carefully, eat in a time-restricted way, fast for 24 hours โ all of these are learning experiences and they take time.
There is a lot of good information out there – my favorites are mentioned above and one more, Gary Taubes two books, โGood Calories Bad Caloriesโ and โWhy we get fat and what to do about itโ
A final thought โ research says that fat people are black and white thinkers โ โI blew it today, therefore I have totally blown it foreverโ kind of thinking.
Replace it with shades of grey โ yup, I blew today but tomorrow I will do โXโ to avoid that same scenario….
I used to drive to a dinner party at a restaurant with friends practicing out loud what I would order!! LOL!!
Find and develop your personal hacks Fatbloke.
Youโve got this!
Julia