Pootle yes you’re right it’s so much easier at the start when you are full of enthusiasm and have a ‘major purpose’. Maintenance is difficult but not impossible. You seem to be doing just fine. The real secret to keeping your diabetes in remission is to regulate your carbs. Personally I think everyone reacts differently to certain carbs. I know I can have the odd piece of bread here and there on holiday but can’t eat anything sugary. You are doing the right thing with finger pricking it’s certainly helped me to keep my BS under control without medication for over 7 years. Don’t get too hung up on the numbers. Oh yes! as long as it’s 70% or higher the chocolate is fine!

Lucy hope you’re feeling better. Every day is a new day and a new start . Keep on going.

Thanks both of you. Unfortunately I am still not well with lits of tummy issues and pain. Medication I was given for acid hasn’t done anything . Getting quietly concerned about it in honesty. Blood tests on Tuesday. So hopefully that will give more of an insight with for the doctor and myself . Lost 1lb this week of rhe 3lb I put on previously , which actually is good news , not in terms of diet but I’m not losing weight quickly etc which in this position could be cause for concern.
Haven’t been 100 percent on diet. Bur doing my best. Family issues are at an all time low, my Dad is succumbing to this dreadful disease seemingly at a rapid rate. My mums not coping and there’s only me and her really. It’s too much and wonder If the time is coming where he needs more care. But until we are assessed by the local council there’s nothing we can do. Been waiting since August and despite calls to them sating things are changing we still haven’t been seen . She pays for private care but uts only 6 hours a week and late pm / evenings/ bedtimes are the worst.
Sorry I’ve deviated from the thread! Pootle tou are doing great…I’m sure an odd treat won’t hurt you
Thanks again…I’m trying my best….but not getting the results at the moment , but unless tou do it 100 percent I know I probably ly won’t , hopefully when I get rhis stomach issue sorted I can re focus.
Xx

Should have said 1lb of the 2lb I put on.*

Lucy, I think you should congratulate yourself for keeping to the diet where possible whilst dealing with an impossible situation!
My mother in law had Alzheimer’s and she lived more or less with us. It was such a strain, the extended family denied there was anything wrong, the gp wouldn’t talk to us and we had to cope for 6 + years until my husband nearly had a breakdown. Only then did the assessment happen and we were told it should have happened years before. I hope the system has improved since then (20 + years ago) and you get assistance soon! It only happened for us when the GP realised we were both having health problems due to the stress of looking after her.

Look after yourself… xx

Lucy I second what Pootle has said. Just try and be kind yourself at the moment.

Really quick post. Despite eveything and still continuing tummy troubles I had a text re my bloods rhis morning. . I am no longer pre diabetic or diabetic…reading was 40.
I can’t believe it and actually had a few tears.
Previously was 48 and diabetic and then years at 46 ish.
Thanks everyone. I actually feel proud of myself for once !

Supposed to say a few years at 44 ish

Lucy great news! Keep on keeping on…..

Brilliant news Lucy!
Hope they resolve the tummy troubles now.
Onwards and upwards!
Xx

Well done Lucy. Your perseverance has paid off. Hope your tummy troubles resolve now.

Lucy, I just love it when we prove the medical work wrong – diabetes can be reversed. Although it is still there silently lurking but you just need to be mindful but not having a live of problems. Im so proud of you.

Hi Lucy, I hope your weigh in went well yesterday and your tummy troubles are getting resolved.
Also that you are feeling a huge amount of pride at putting diabetes into remission!
xx

Thank you everyone. For once I do feel very proud of myself.
Life has been so manic and eating accordingly had been difficult but I’ve cut myself a bit of slack and didn’t lose anything this week but maintained.
My tummy is a mystery so far but ongoing tests etc. But reassuring my bloods have been good so far. The stress I’m under doesn’t help most likely
My sons uk wedding is early March with his cyprus one mid April. So I am very keen to get back on track so from Monday I am going back to writing everything down and weighing everything again. I have a month to lose as much as possible and rhen another month before overseas wedding . But life has been hard recently but I keep in my head I’ve lost 2st 8lbs and not even pre diabetic anymore. So onward and upward! Thanks for all your wishes. X

Hi Lucy,

I hope that your tummy troubles have eased….I think you are right about the stress, it certainly doesn’t help with any health conditions! I also hope that your son’s wedding preparations are going well, how wonderful to have 2 weddings…but even more stress I suppose.

You are in my thoughts.

K.xxx

Things are just so stressful. This dementia road is long and hard thats for sure.
Anyway lost 2lbs this week. Confession was couple weeks ago I stayed rhe same then went a bit crazy for a day or 2. Put on 4lbs!! But it had gone again by last Friday and today I have lost 2lbs.
So I am now the lowest I’ve been. In honesty slightly disappointed as I’ve been 100 percent and 2 lbs doesn’t seem much. But I’m determined to stay on the path. Hope everyone is doing well x

Lucy, losing that 2lb is a success.
As has been said before, be kind to yourself. We have all slipped and had to face the consequential gains. But the important thing is that you have ‘climbed back on’ and gone on to lose that weight!

I admire you enormously, thinking back to the time we were looking after MIL with dementia, I doubt whether I could have been as strong as you are and kept to a strict dietary regime! Give yourself a pat on the back.
Onward and upward!
Xx

Hi Lucy, I know it’s hard but don’t despair 2lbs in a week is really good, especially as you have been at this for a while now. Just think, if you hadn’t got yourself back in hand so quickly, that 4lb+ more would have been the result, instead you got back on track and are going in the right direction. Please remember bodies aren’t robotic machines – deprive of power and they slow or stop – no our bodies are alive and can be contrary (to our minds), sometimes they let the fat go and sometimes they don’t. You are doing brilliantly but as you know weight loss is not linear and can be a very surprising journey.

Your situation isn’t made easier with having to cope with familial dementia. As you say it is a long, hard road. My father-in-law has been on that journey for a few years and luckily, up to now at least, does not have the aggression or fear traits (by pure luck he is in a very good dementia specialising home) but it is hard to see “him” disappear both mentally and physically.

You have come so far and done so well.

Lucy … well done! Just keep doing what you’re doing …it’s working!

Thank you all. You really do keep me going. I’m not where I woukd like to be weight wise but I’m rhe lightest I’ve been in years.
Yes the journey is hard with dementia, we are looking in to respite currently and funding etc which is a minefield in itself. Day after day there’s loads to do whilst struggling with what this cruel disease has made of my dad. I dread the day we drop him off at a care home even for respite…..how do you even explain it. My mum is barely surviving and really struggling. Especially as she lives with four other peiple who aren’t even there….just in my dad’s world, so it’s constantly having to answer to that…where are they, why have you taken the car, they need it, why haven’t you made them a meal, why are you in their bed, why haven’t you taken them shopping…..the list is endless. . .. they’re upstairs they’re on the garden….wow what a world!
We all need a break. She can’t operate a computer, she’s never paid a bill, so it’s all that too. I’m running 2 households!
I’ve decided there should be a law that you can’t just have one child lol!!! It’s way too much.
Anyway here we are still trying to lose weight! Sometimes I just want to sit down, relax with a cuppa and a pack of biscuits!
Thanks again….you all give me a pat on the back when I need one. Xx

Lucy six months or so ago your first post said ‘I need to lose lots of weight’.
Yesterday you said “I’m the lightest I’ve been in years “

I understand how difficult your personal circumstances are but despite all of that you are doing amazingly well …. Lightest you’ve been in years…. grab it with both hands and run with that!

You have very difficult circumstances at the moment but you need lots and lots of pats on the back for coming as far as you have.

Carry on carrying on !

Hi Lucy, I think you are probably full swing with the first part of the wedding…I hope all is going well, and you are enjoying being mother of the groom!
You are in my thoughts..
xxxx

Thanks Pootle . Wedding is this afternoon. Register office and rhen drinks and buffet.
Cyprus in about a month.
My diet hasn’t been going well, I have good and bad days. But if I have a bad day I get back to it and my weight had remained pretty much the same. I just can’t seem to sort rhis cycle out at rhe moment. Things with my dad have been brutal but secured some respite from Monday in a lovely place but he’s now refusing to go after he lo9ked round yesterday. That has really thrown me.
So in a few days I have my sons wedding, Monday getting dad into care, Tuesday my neighbours funeral. So a real life progression tour. Very sad.
Anyway have to put my best foot forward today
Thanks for the wishes x

Thinking of you Lucy. Take it one thing at a time and try to enjoy your sons wedding – a very special day. You say your diet has not been going well but your weight is pretty much the same – I think you are probably a lot less than 6 months ago.

Enjoy.

How are you getting on Lucy – how did the wedding go – you haven’t posted for a week….

Hi, I’m so sorry for not updating it’s been a nightmare week.
However wedding was great, really enjoyed and had a lovely small get together in the evening which was great too….a bit too mich drinking and snacking!
Then my Dad went to respite Monday and was so upset as was my mum that she went back and got him. Fast forward 24 hours and she took him back again as everyone was saying it was for rhe best and had taken so much organisation….
It’s a really ice place and visited for the first time yesterday ( they said not to for first couple days) and he seemed in very good spirits but unfortunately today that isn’t the case. He’s lost his big parka coat that he practically lives in and they can’t find it which has sent him off the rails. He wanders about in it all the time. I’m a bit cross they still haven’t located it.
It’s been so stressful and in between attended my neighbours funeral and wake on Tuesday.
Only a few weeks until cyprus wedding!
After eating and drinking over the weekend I put on a couple pounds but had got rid of it again by yesterday weigh in. So although I’m not losing I’m maintaining, My current situ is not easy for dieting but I’m doing my best.
Hope everyone is OK and continuing their journeys!!! Lucy xxx

Lucy glad you’re still with us. Sorry to hear of all your issues. Stay strong.

Hi Lucy,

Great that you are able to maintain, given all that you are having to cope with. When my Mum went into a home, she “lost” her dentures…..I well remember the panic and it was so difficult! I really hope they find your Dad’s coat soon. These things are very important! 🤞🤞🤞

Keep going, and as V has said, “stay strong”…you will come out the other side!

XXXXXXX

Sorry crypto but you are preaching to the converted. Thank you for your advice but we already know all that. However, I am still going to report you for advertising.

Hi Lucy.
I hope they found your father’s coat and things have settled down a little!
Xxx

Morning. Had terrible week with care home, it’s a top rated one but catalogue of upsets culminating yesterday with a visit from my son and his “wife” (can’t get use to that yet!) to visit him and they were so upset by what they found they rang me. Luckily mum was on her way in anyway but I won’t bore you with it any longer but he was booked for 2 more weeks but mum is bringing him home tomorrow and we will look for something else. She has submitted formal complaint.
Weight wise I put on 3 lbs which i am embarrassed to say….I’m not making excuses but I’ve been so low with it all rhat items have been eaten that shouldn’t have been! I’m trying to pull myself together and hopefully next Friday it will be gone. Have spent most of rhe weekend so far very upset which isn’t the best way to be whilst dieting.
Pootle…they did find his coat thankfully. And thanks for your message. I feel a bit of a fake on here recently. I must try harder. Hope all of you are well and getting results!! Xx

Lucy so sorry to hear how bad things are at the moment.

Please don’t beat yourself up about a small weight gain. Under the circumstances you are doing really well. ‘Fake’ you definitely are not. We aren’t just ‘fair weather’ friends here. We all have ‘down’ times and sometimes it’s good to be able to ‘voice’ your problems with ‘strangers’.

Chin up, do your best to stay healthy and come here and vent whenever you need to if it helps. Hope things settle down a bit for you soon.

To reiterate what Verano has said, you are not ‘Fake’! I think some moral support from anywhere, is invaluable, and you are in such a stressful situation that if our minor support can help at all, we are here to give it!
We all need help at times and we all ‘slip’! As I have said before, be kind to yourself. I am sure you will ‘climb back on ‘ when you can, and those couple of pounds will melt away!
Thinking of you.
Xxxxx

Hi Lucy, no you are not fake, this site is for moral support not just cheering when things go well. Just stick with us, you are going through an awful time right now but things will get better once you have your dad settled somewhere nice.

I have gain 2.5lbs just overnight thanks to hubbys birthday and several or too many drinks. Hey ho, I will get back on track just like you will.

You are all so kind and I feel awful hijacking this thread when sometimes uts not about dieting.
Thankfully my Dad has remained after ironing out issues we had. Unfortunately after this 2 weeks respite is over and he cannot stay there full time due to finances so another struggle will start again. And now he has a water infection making things worse
I’ve been back on my diet today but struggling a little due to eating the wrong things recently I am back to craving them.
Thanks for all your nice comments, I really appreciate it..

Lucy, we dont care what you talk about as long as you are here and have someone to vent to. I have been going on about daughter wanting us to sell up in France which has nothing to do with diet.

Thank you.
Well some good news I lost 4lbs this week. Original 3 rhat I put on and an extra one.
So that’s the lowest I’ve been.
Some good news in a rough week. My Dad is very unwell wirh uti. Which has had a terrible effect on his dementia and well being.
Hope everyone is doing well
Xx

Hi Lucy,
Brilliant that you have lost the 3lb gained weight plus an extra pound!! Excellent!

I really hope that they can get on top of your Dad’s uti, it really is amazing how that can affect dementia!

Take care.
Xxxx

well done Lucy

Disastrous week. Put on 4lbs that I lost last week. It’s amazing how just a couple of slip ups can be so dramatic.
It’s been an awful week. Dad has been so ill with uti that I spent all week extending his respite….and let me tell you it would be easier to join MI5, literally so much work.
We have to look at long term care and now the family is off to Cyprus for rhe wedding next Saturday apart from my parents obviously. And now he will be due out next weekend so I have one week to organise long term care which is a nightmare. They wouldn’t do it this week as he needs to be reassessed for long term and they won’t do that whilst he’s ill . Literally lay awake last night thinking how am I going to do this.
He’s not eaten anything all week and looks so frail. Should be looking forward to Cyorus but all I feel is dread. I don’t know how I’m going ro sort this out. As there is no way mum can cope with him at home. Dementia is significantly worse. Alongside all the ither issues.
Anyway….hope you’re all OK. I’m seriously gutted re weight but it’s all I can do at the moment. Xx

Hi Lucy.
I feel for you…wish I could help. It is a nightmare, and the bureaucracy is unbelievable. When we were at our lowest, trying to get help, MIL wouldn’t go into respite…or allow assessment, in the end she was sectioned to get her somewhere to be assessed…that was a terrible day! BUT life did improve once she was in full time care.
I think the thing to remember is you need to TRY to give yourself some time for yourself. VERY difficult, I know, but essential for your health.
The weight will come off again…if it has gone once, it will be easier to lose next time, and you know you can do it! I put on 2lb this week…I think due to the bottle of sparkling wine I succumbed to on my birthday! 😩( I stopped drinking regularly a few years ago)
Thinking of you.
xxxxx